Recently I have started taking better care of myself by doing little things every day. By recently, I mean this past year. I found that the less I listen to my own needs, wants, and desires, the less in control I am of my attitude and emotions.
I enjoy my children every day. I enjoy the time we spend together. I enjoy playing with Fredhead on the Wii. I enjoy hearing Rico's endless stories about cats. I enjoy Wheezers kindness and kisses. And I definitely enjoy Mimi's fierce independence.
Some days, though, I need some time for me. In fact, I am finding that I need "me time" each day and once or twice a month I would love an entire day to be alone. Some days I find that time early in the morning working on a client, doing yoga, and meditating. Some days it looks like sleeping in. Some days I squeeze in a ten minute meditation while the kids are watching a show. Sometimes I find it in the afternoon, like today, when the girls are with their Grammy and the boys are playing with friends. There are many moms who choose not to homeschool because they worry they won't have any "me time". There is still "me time". It looks different for each mom and family though. Each woman prefers different amounts of time alone and that's okay.
So why should you start doing more self-care? Because you deserve it. Every woman deserves to feel good. We deserve to take care of ourselves. We deserve to be filled up and if you have't figured it out yet, no one can fill you up but you and God. So, find some time for God. Find some time for you. Each day may look different but you'll feel better after giving yourself some attention. Has it been awhile since you created? Break out the water colors. Do your toes need some color? Take a bath and paint them tonight. Has it been awhile since you had a run and you just can't find the time? The truth is, you do have the time. So go for that run.
Here are a few things I do to give myself the care that I need and deserve so that I can be more like myself, which is nicer and more loving.
Yoga is such a fun thing to try. It may not seem easy. You may not be flexible. But with time and practice you become more flexible. (Jordan can prove that!) Yoga gives me time to connect with my body, feel what's going on inside and take some deep breaths. I do yoga in the morning to set my mood right or in the evening to let go of the day.
Herbal teas are a great way to relax. I also find that my body craves certain teas at certain times. I use store-bought blended teas and I also make my own with the loose herbs that I have on hand. Lemon balm is a great herb that helps me to relax and calm down. Hibiscus and raspberry leaf are great for women and give me a pick-me-up when I feel that's needed too!
3. Face Masks
I have started doing face masks more frequently. They feel great. I feel like this tiny thing is giving my body some extra care and when it comes off I feel fresh and pretty. My go-to at the moment is this: 2 tsp raw cacao powder, 1/8 tsp activated charcoal, a splash of honey (or vitamin e oil or almond oil), and enough water to make it into a paste. Let sit on your face until dry and then rinse off.
Reading is not something I generally have a lot of time for. BUT when I do find a book I cannot put down, I find the time to read. Really though, this is a reminder to me that reading is enjoyable and I DO have the time to read. I just choose other options instead.
Meditation is a way for me to connect to my inner being and to God. It allows me the time and space delve into myself and figure out what I am doing on earth, what God's plan is for me, and to feel the love and support God offers me. I meditate anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes several times per week depending on my time frame. I love guided meditations and soon will be putting some of my own on Youtube. (I'll be sure to update this post with a link to my channel when that happens.)
Because, really, I do love a piece of dark chocolate and it can make my day brighter.
7. Energy Healing
Yes, I can do energy healing on myself and if you cannot yet, this may not fall under self-care in exact terms. But I do believe that energy healing can help you rid negative emotions and fears that are holding you back from truly loving yourself and others. If you have not yet found an energy healing modality that resonates with you, I invite you to continue searching and allow your intuition to guide you.
8. Yoni Steaming
I have been wondering why vaginal steaming was ever forgotten by women. Who stopped passing down this wonderful thing? I will be having a post in the near future about vaginal steaming, but if you haven't tried it before, please start. You can check out the Steamy Chick website for more information and to read more on her blog. I use herbs that I have in my garden and using herbs indigenous to your area is a great place to start. If you are worried about choosing the correct herbs, check out her website for herbal combinations she has made. Yoni steaming doesn't take long and is for all women, starting at puberty until death! It is especially helpful to look into this if you have any problems in your reproductive area.
Self care does not have to take long. It hopefully won't feel like a chore. It should leave you feeling rejuvenated and lighter! Practicing self care fills me up so I have more to give throughout the day to myself, my husband, my kids, and anyone else that I come in contact with!
What do you do for self-care? In what ways has it benefited you?