My Husband’s Thoughts on Life Learning
There are plenty of people who ask what Jordan thinks about the way we do school. Did I force him into it? Is he just going along with it until I come to my senses? Was he homeschooled and that is why we are doing this?
I believe he can answer questions for himself. If you think of any others, please comment below and I’ll be sure to ask him and report back!
Where did you go to school? Public school.
Did you enjoy it? No. Why not? Because I am an introvert and I did not like being around that many people and I did not like trying to fit in.
What did you wish you were doing instead? I wished that I was home.
How did you discover unschooling? Through you.
Define unschooling. I guess it is a natural process of learning that isn’t dictated by anyone other than the learner.
Was choosing to unschool an easy choice for you? No. Why not? It was hard because we were trained as kids that school really only had one form.
Which parts of unschooling did you have a hard time with? Mostly I think it was overcoming the fact that they do not have to learn certain things by a certain age.
How did you end up coming around to unschooling?I think that I basically had to zoom way out and evaluate how we learn as adults and realize that children learn the same way we do. The public education system, or really any formalized education system, does not really accommodate that. We do not learn when we do not have interest; we just memorize.
Have you noticed changes in our home life since unschooling? If so, what are they? Yes. Less arguing. It’s calmer and more relaxed. And it feels better knowing that the kids are free to excel in the things they are interested in.
Are there things you think our kids are missing out on because they don’t go to school? Drugs and violence.
Are there things you think our kids have gained because they don’t go to school? I think they have a greater sense of who they are and what they love. I think they have greater self-mastery. They pick what they want to do and how long they want to do it. And they regulate themselves according to their needs.
Have you seen any negative outcomes since we started unschooling? Reactions from family. (In what ways?) They have an expectation of what kids should know and what age they should know it and this doesn’t function that way. (How do you wish that would change? Or do you?) Yes I wish it would change. I don’t think that it will until they are able to see that all of the same things can be accomplished and learned without it being on a government dictated timeline.
What is something you wish people knew about unschoolers/our lifestyle? That we are not unschooling because we are lazy or irresponsible. But that we have put significant amounts of research and thought into why we do what we do. And we do it because all of the thought and research we have done has led us to believe that this is the best and most natural environment for learning. And we do it because we don’t want to suppress or inhibit our children knowing and being who they really are and want to be.
Do you think there are gaps in our children’s learning because we are unschooling? No.
Do you enjoy life? Yes.
What do you do all day? What I want to do. Work that I want to do, the amount I want to do and the amount of time I want to spend with my family in relation to that.
What are you interested in? A lot of things. Music, space, fitness...
What do you wish you knew more about? The gospel.
How have you grown since we embraced unschooling? I don’t know if I have grown but I have greater trust in our own children.
What you do love about your life? I love that I get to do what I love doing everyday and that we can at any time decide what we want to do as a family and go and do it or take a day off.
Life learning gives us the opportunity to see our kids in their own bright light. We allow them to thrive by letting them explore their natural environment (the home) and allowing them the space to explore life outside the home too. In fascinating ways, they discover what they are interested in and are always showing us just how trustworthy they really are. They know their minds and they trust themselves to learn. They also trust us to support and validate them.